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Cute ways to ask someone to be your girlfriend

If you've been seeing someone for a while, making it official shouldn't be a guessing game. It also doesn't need a flash mob. The sweet spot is something a little thoughtful that makes them smile before they answer.

By the dearyou team ·

Candles and rose petals on a table for a romantic dinner

Simple and sweet

  • Ask in person at the place you had your first date.
  • Write it on the last page of a letter about your favourite moments so far.
  • Hand them a coffee with the question written on the cup.

Funny

  • A formal 'application' with checkboxes, including a 'yes, obviously' option.
  • A slideshow presentation on why you'd be a great partner, with graphs.
  • A 'no' button that runs away from their finger.

Properly filmy

  • A sky of your memories, joined up into a heart, with the question in the stars.
  • A little comic about how your two worlds collided.
  • A treasure hunt where every clue is a memory.
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TipWhatever the format, say one true, specific thing about why you want to be with them. That's the part that lands.

What the research says

From the research
People who wrote heartfelt letters worried a lot about getting the words right, but the recipients mostly responded to the warmth, and felt much better than the writers predicted.
[1] Kumar & Epley, 2018Psychological Science

In practice: don't wait for the perfect words. A sincere, slightly awkward ask lands better than you think.

Questions people ask

What is a cute way to ask someone to be your girlfriend?+

Ask somewhere meaningful, like your first-date spot, or build a small surprise around your memories so far, then ask simply and sincerely.

When should you ask someone to be your girlfriend or boyfriend?+

When you've been seeing each other for a while, you're not seeing other people, and you're both enjoying it. If you're unsure, talking about it openly is a good sign in itself.

Make it yours

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Sources

  1. [1]Kumar, A. & Epley, N. (2018). Undervaluing gratitude: Expressers misunderstand the consequences of showing appreciation. Psychological Science, 29(9). Read

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